My Thoughts on Relationships (2024 edition)

My Thoughts on Relationships as of The Now.                           (top of 2024)

My thoughts on relationships are like this: They are not something to which you look forward and 

think you are going to accomplish. They are the combinations of things you have shared with someone 

for the period of time ya'll have shared in the same universe-spacetime (e.g. the past). I don't 

believe in hierarchies or otherwise drawing up special shapes with my relationships because I have 

identified that even the ones that have birthed me and are part of my direct genetic timeline (e.g. 

my "family") does not matter, all my relationships are unique in their nature because my 

interactions with each of those individuals is completely unique in their own nature. Present-day 

constructs such as "family", "friend" and "${gender}friend", "fuckbuddy" no longer mean anything to 

me. There only exists the here and the now. Everyone really is out for themselves as they should be

and it's not a matter of going against nature in this regard, it's about navigating it adequately

enough to at a bare minimum to survive, at the most thrive.

This idea of "blood is thicker than water" clearly does not hold even with my own family and it's sad

to see people say "unconditional" love, but then apply conditions and cast people away that do not

serve them, even if they are of blood descent.

There does not need to exist a singular motion of "Service to Self" vs "Service to Others". One must

find the balance in this to know how much of the self to serve and how much to serve others. I do

believe there exists an existential Karma about this because you get what you give in this world.

I also have seen how Service to Self can be Service to Others in the ways of enlightenment and self

discovery. By learning more about The Self and The Ego and being able to partition elements of

identity to both gives me great insights into how I can interact more fully here. We are all given

a choice on how we react to a situation, after all.

So, choose wisely.

I choose to Serve the Self by investigating my inner demons. I inquire them thoroughly for their

needs and serve them their demolishment and the alchemic shift from darkness to light. I Serve the

Self by understanding it as fully as I can to be able to navigate the moments where it is most

critical in my advancement, not just survival.

I choose to Serve Others by providing that path and trail to show an example of what it looks like

to care for the self without being arrogant or narcissist. To show that it is possible to rise from

the darkness at your command and see just as much as you wish to see if you would only just get

out of your own way.

I choose to Serve Others by providing a place and a space where one can discover their True Self

and what that feels like to have a Love for the Self you may have never experienced because you

spent your entire life denying it, thinking you didn't deserve it.

Trust me. I know what that feels like.

My thoughts on relationships are this: I'm Single for Life.

.... but I'm also polyamorous 😉

I appreciate all the blessings that come into my life and support me. However, I have a hard time

accepting something for nothing. Probably one of the reasons I am not yet a millionaire is because

I refuse to take advantage of people and do it in a way that unequally benefits me. However, if

situations like this occur, I will do what I can to either reverse as well as I can or issue

correction as possible. Otherwise, I will pay it forward because you can't take it with you.

So, leave it better than you found it... as best you can.

At least, that's my philosophy on the matter at this time, based on what I know and have experienced.